So often, our conditioned default is to disassociate, deny, avoid and ignore the internal truth we carry so that we can fit into whatever situation we find ourselves in. That truth includes the sensations we are experiencing in our body, how we are feeling (our emotional state), and the truth about what we really want. Note that when we physically hurt, it’s worth considering that we might be experiencing emotional resistance to something we don’t want, yet feel compelled to engage. Because we betray ourselves, again and again to that resistance (call it our default mode), illness finally catches up with us, out of alignment with our potential to feel really well.

What a time to be alive! So many of us have spent our lives afraid to take a risk into any unknown, if we even believed that we had choice to do so or not. We did have choice; however, most of us didn’t believe it. Truth is, the phrase, I didn’t have a choice has for ages been the mantra expressed for NOT leaping into an unknown potential. We were looking for safety, for the familiar, for sanity.

Now, I believe, the reverse is true; we are at greater risk of losing our minds if we stay with what we have always known and believed was safe, familiar and sane. Those days are over. The risk to our well being lies in forgetting ourselves and not remembering who we are as quantum biological human beings with the power of choice. Family systems dynamics, government authorities and media forces are engaged in the relentless pursuit of ensuring that we believe we are anything but that, such that it makes it easy AND dangerous for us to forget our inherent magnificence. In that, we sabotage our connection to our Selves and others.

There is another way to think about our lives. All meaning is context dependent. So, changing the framework for whom you really are IS, as far as I am concerned, the only way to change the meaning of your life. If you think that you are your body, you’ll get results that reflect that thinking. And, if you change your mind to consciously choose to believe that whom you are is way orders of magnitude beyond your body, then you’ll get results that reflect that thinking.

The former will result in same old, same old… the endless repetition of what you tolerate, yet can no longer stand, supplying only incremental changes to a life you have grown weary of.

I believe that we are always at a turning point in our lives, now more than ever, as we move forward into these crazy times we are living in. Maybe the only thing we do know is change and our resistance to it, both of which we are not generally fans of. Still, because we don’t know what is coming, we seek to dumb-down our lives, so that we can manage our states. Maybe, then, we won’t have to suffer the continued self-reproach of how we have chosen to live our lives.

If you think that you are the only one who as erred in your life, I encourage you to take a deep exhale and think again. But first, you can gift yourself with dropping the entire notion of fault and blame as the critical tool we have been programmed to use, generation to generation, to project our problems onto others. It has served us well to separate ourselves from the disliked and unwanted choices we have made. That projection ultimately keep ourselves small and captive to our own self-loathing. It polarizes my ‘right’ against your ‘right’, ultimately making us both feel that we have been ‘wronged’. And, thus, continued reproach of Self and other is sustained. It is demoralizing and depressing to say the least.