Over the course of my life journey, I have held back on actively celebrating others in their awesome successes. And, in all honesty, I believe that I could have have created more impact for myself and others in that process. Where I have been most resistant is in celebrating myself, so is it any wonder that I have held back in celebrating others’ successes with more excitement? If I don’t allow myself to dance to my own music, how will I learn to support others in dancing to their’s?

On a recent group ZOOM call, I heard the facilitator say something to the effect of this: Think of a boss you worked so well for, yet never heard a word of praise from; now that you are Self employed, ARE you being that boss (to yourself)?

Some of you may be familiar with Ho’o Pono Pono (to make right, right) as one of the healing processes in Huna. I’ll be including that experience as a creative visualization in this 2-day session, along with other transformative experiences to empower your life. 

Huna, as a study for how to live your life, as the spiritual being you are, expressing through the body into a physical reality, brings with it an intelligence and ease that awakens awareness, connects the dots and makes sense of your life. This is something I believe we are all looking for, as we seek to become more resourceful and resilient in these uncertain and ‘crazy’ times. 

Huna has been the baseline education for my life experience for over 25 years now. Based in space, movement, flow and the elements, It offers up a built-in way to holistically heal your life and your understanding of it.

I have been really good over the years of my life at self-censoring. It is all pretty old. And, one of the ways self-censoring has always shown up for me lives inside the idiom: Whatever others think of me needs my attention, so, I won’t ever be found ‘wrong’. My own self-applied limitations have been so deeply defined by ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ that BEING right/wrong is how I have perpetually defined myself over the course of my life. Don’t get me wrong; my once rigid perspectives about being right or wrong have lessened as I’ve gotten greater (both in age and wisdom!) However, I have yet to fully let go of my old propensity to refuse to hear those gremlin voices in my ear shouting, ‘Get it right, damn it!’

Recently, I discovered that while I was speaking to anger/rage in terms that were OK for others to understand for themselves, I had great difficulty, in/for myself, to access its essential elemental signal of FIRE in my own body. So deep was the conditioning to not go there for fear of having to experience that intensity rise up in others, I got enormously proficient at avoiding, defending and denying it by holding my breath to stave away any and all perception of danger. With that, I could feel safe (temporarily at best) from any possibility of having to feel shunned and left behind, adding yet another layer of humiliation and shame to an ever increasing mountain of unconscious (likely mysterious to others) behaviours yielding unwanted results in my life.

As I have shared, here, before, sometimes my email responses find themselves re-intended as a blog posting so that others may have the benefit of perspectives which may not have occurred as a possibility, yet hold deep resonance in the reading of them.

The title above, is the question which surfaced twice in an email to me this morning. It is useful to consider, that even the things we consider as unintelligent still carry the genius of purpose… to keep us feeling safe inside, where we live. So, I believe that the title question above will resonate with many; as such, here is my response to the email, sans reference to the writer: