A Matter of Opinion...

It's 2017 and it's July. The last time I opened up this blog was is February. Wow, my state of being has leaped since then! How many times have I told myself that I had nothing of value to say? So this blog, of course, would see no activity. LOL, who really gets to determine that value? At the end of the day..... fast forward to ME!

Lots of things are moving in my world, not the least of which is my desire to simply BE and LIVE as a process that knows the certainty of grace AND the grace of certainly, as core, as essential, to my world. I know that I am creating all of the time. I know that  my unique way of moving, authentically, through an externally created reality is, without exception, projected from an internal world view that lives its truth inside my body.... conscious or unconscious, comfortable or uncomfortable... and EITHER owned and claimed, inhaled or exhaled, as a good thing OR intellectually denied/avoided, as culturally inexpedient.  My body will never deny it's truth; my intellect, however, will; I am the only one who can reframe that for myself. Only when the intellect allows the body to know what it knows... and what it does not know it does not know... can we ever really know the full magic that we are. 

Truth, owned and claimed, inhaled and exhaled, invites comfort's expansion into more of itself and discomfort's release of itself. Hey, 'discomfort', you are now free to leave your what you thought was your entitlement, your real estate, behind. Whose original opinion did you choose to rely upon, anyway? Was it ever naturally yours?

Truth, denied and avoided, sees breathing shortened, curtailed and, ultimately, stopped; When we chose, heels dug into the earth for dear life, to die to be right... well, we invite discomfort to always, in all ways, find it's traction, there. Ultimately, that traction, can dissolve into quick sand.

So, what does an opinion have to do with any of this?  Well, here are some questions to ask:

How do I authentically feel, inside, about what I am hearing? What gets triggered in my body? Am I breathing? When I own the truth of my feelings about it all, do i insist on adding extra locks to an area, where there is no door in site? Alternatively, can I allow myself to see that a door does exist... and that it can open to reveal another possibility? 

There is an old expression that 'opinions are like assholes; everybody's got one'. We can laugh. Still, that anatomical construct is an essential resource to our body's physiological functioning. Truly, the body is the final frontier of expression; it is evidence of the cutting edge of our thinking. Without that orifice, can you imagine how you'd be feeling, how you'd be thinking? How connected would you feel to the essence  - the space, movement and flow - of whom you  really are?

Short, plain and simple, I have, just today, come to view 'opinion' - my own or anybody's opinion about anything - as either a resource to live my life or not. In considering a resource, I'll either feel good about it or I won't; it will authentically support me or it won't. Like any resource, an opinion - created or adapted - is always in line for the choosing; for me, it's got to feel 'right', inside, in order for me to authentically engage and invest. How much of what we invest in at the grocery store, for an example, is simply a matter of opinion? My point is that my universe is a quantum and abundant store of everything, including opinions, like them or not. We get to choose and we have the right to change our minds, again and again, and again. Will we?

So, in this moment, will I choose only that which will congruently satisfy all logical levels of my expression from my highest intention for being here, at this time, to what I ultimately actualize, right here, right now? Or will I default to another's opinion, as more valued than what my 'gut' instinct tells me is true and 'right' for my world?

Territories and maps are not the same thing. There can be many maps for a single territory; designing it is a matter of perspective, a matter of interpretation. It seems we have forgotten, even before we started our earthly life journeys, that maps do not - and were never intended to - define whom we are. They are an opinion, a resource, only - based on personal experience - of 'best' suggestions to navigate our worlds. There can be as many maps as their are opinions as there are people, asking whatever questions they are choosing to ask. Following them - or not - is a personal choice.

The following is what I found myself sharing in an email today with another; this is what propelled me to engage my blog after such a long time away from it; this is valuable to me to share: 

'I agree. What I have learned over the years is that, in conversation, while people, generally, may use the same words and phrasing, those words and phrasing never mean the same thing to each individual. Perspectives and interpretations are always unique to the individual. As such - and at the end of the day - I guess they can only be considered opinions, at best. And, those opinions quickly become ‘law’ in a world that knows fear as its only fuel by which to choose. It takes committed mindfulness, awareness and courage to not fall prey to the cultural conditioning of it all. Thanks for the reminder.'

Reality Check!

Hmmm..... I read this post, immediately below, on Linkedin, today. It felt jarring and it got me thinking.

'NO AUTHORITY IS HIGHER THAN REALITY. Truth isn't a matter of your personal viewpoint. Learn to see things as they really are, not as you imagine they are. Wrong is wrong, no matter who does it or who says it. No matter what you believe, it never changes the facts. If they are there, the facts always speak for themselves. The truth does not change because it is, or is not, believed by a majority of people. If sixty million people say a foolish thing, it's still a foolish thing. The sky is no less blue because the blind man does not see it.'

Here was my written comment. now, added to, with further personal insight...

Interesting point of view! The pre-supposition, here, is that 'reality' IS the existing authority. Whose reality? Your's, mine or the collective's? I hold that each person must decide that - meaning define reality - for herself, if she is to live a meaningful and self-sustaining life, joyously, on her own terms. Cultural conditioning assumes certain defaults to collective thinking, intended - like it or not, agree with me or not - to keep us captive to the expectations of status quo thinking. Status quo thinking is what fuels compliance and coma; this means looking outside of ourselves for answers that are rarely relevant to our uniquely, one-of-a-kind lives. Compliance to external dictates has become collectively habitual and expected to majority mind-share; fear is the big stick that drives it. Lots of judgement, conditioning and conclusion; psychological entrapment. Compliance to collective mind-share kills creativity; it renders us powerless to dream beyond our unconscious limitations that, in truth, are only ours because we have mindlessly defaulted to conclusions of others, who have done the same, ad nauseam, through aeons of history, habit and habituation. Both literally and metaphorically, we have forgotten how to breathe on our own. I think that we are in dire need of a pattern interrupt. Breathing IS good!

In summary, the one thing I know is that no one can be 'right' for me about what I hold as 'right' and true for myself. In the same way, neither can I be 'right' for another about what she holds as 'right' and true for herself. My reality is MY reality. Yours is YOURS. In my experience, most of us have metaphorically died, time and time again, to be 'right' about others, so they cannot be 'right' for themselves. We live polarized lives. It is exhausting and it is sad. Still, dying to be 'right' about 'it' all, we still go there, attempting to bring some order to that which we do not understand. So, I ask you, What is there to understand? 

How could our lives be different, if we were to simply take a breath, let go and let god? Your willing choice to become your own next moment for the big exhale in/of your life, will become your next expansive inspiration, oxygenating an an already emerging future; it can't not be that way; metaphorically - and, indeed, in the most literal of terms - THAT, biochemically, is how we breathe ourselves; the exhale invites the next inhale. THAT is how we create our personal realities.  

It takes courage to interrupt what we think we know for certain, without question. It takes practice, too.... sustained practice to STOP capitulating to cultural expectation as the default and  prescription for how we 'should' be living. Collective reality need not know traction in our lives, unless we consciously choose that. Truth is, I know that I AM living in this world; I also know that I AM not of it. I have chosen to live this way, awake and aware. I also know that you can choose that, too. 

STOP and take a breath, remembering to fully exhale. It really IS that simple.

Thanks for reading!

Till next time...


Choosing Amnesia

On one of our regular road trips in the last couple of years, a friend presented me with this hypothesis (as we were entertaining Siri’s back roads travel advice, yet overriding this form of artificial intelligence by organic impulse/intuition): Sheila, if you had found yourself with amnesia and had had to set out to re-create your life, how would it have been different and what would you have created? I said to her, That’s a hard one; I have no reference points for that. And, she reminded me that THAT was the point. Amnesia has no reference points. And so, I knew immediately, what my life would have looked like. 

No reference points. Like the back roads we were travelling on, we had no historical reference points to guide our choices for where we were driving; what we knew in each moment, however, was an intention. We were taking an unknown - yet intuitively known - route and choosing the turns, by feel and by deep and internal knowing… leaving Siri scrambling to catch up to us. 

Since that conversation with my friend, I have discovered that embracing the metaphor of amnesia is the great invitation to me to get out of my own way. My experience of the life that I am creating for my Self knows much more ease now. 

So, I ask you, What would your life feel like, sound like, look like, if you were to authentically live your life, in this breath, with no past, no historical reference points? 

If it is true that life does not happen to us; instead, we happen to life (courtesy of Aristotle via Dr. Wayne Dyer?), then what, simply in the very moment of your choosing, could you imagine, design and create for your world, the one you authentically choose to live in… and BE not of? 

What would you let yourself really know about your Self in this ever changing space? Whom would you become? 


The Sheer Grace

Our beliefs are the gatekeepers to our thoughts; our thoughts become our things, our realities, our lives. For our realities to transform, a continuing pattern interrupt to how we are thinking about our lives and our living is essential. It demands knowing that, not only do we have choice, a very different choice is critical to our evolution and to our well being. When we consciously choose to take time to actively inhale our lives into the very cells of our bodies/our beings and to authentically exhale our unique experiences into our worlds, we magically invite the collapse of all that we have ever held as true in our realities about who and what we are as human beings; lies inculcated as truth, yet incontestably untrue. We ARE NOT our bodies.

Breathe first and breath again... and again.... and again. Air moves. How can it not? When our beliefs are transformed, by way of our choosing, first and always, to breathe, we can easily arrive at that personal place where we know we can change our minds... and, truth be told, already have. As we change our minds, our thoughts alter themselves...spontaneously. As our thoughts alter, then reality - as we each experience it - looks, sounds and feels very different.

Consciously choose to consciously breathe! Can change really be that simple? Is that all it really takes?

The purpose of our lives is not - and never has been - to hold our breath; to remain immoveable. Who we have come to be was never intended to be static. The question then becomes: What energy, space and consciousness can we each become to BE the space, the movement and the flow - the sheer grace - we  already ARE... now awakened and continually awakening to a new possibility? 

Impact and Courage

It is essential, I believe, that we - meaning you and me and everyone the world over - remember that we are HERE (meaning on planet earth) because each of us is and has IMPACT. There is nothing we need do but to take a huge inhale followed by a long, resonant exhale, and to choose to BE our magnificent Selves and to speak the truth of our experience, warts and all. Sounds simple, doesn't it? Sounds easy. I look outside of me and I ask myself, Why, then, would we continue to be so hard on ourselves?

Why, indeed? Mindless habituation.

Our first and greatest choice, each and every time, should be to exhale our Selves into our worlds. This is the consummate choiceThis is the marvellous process of awakening. This takes practice and this takes courage. I believe that, as an unconscious default to our histories, habits and habituation, we have mindlessly numbed ourselves into forgetting that we really are COURAGE in spades... we need prove nothing. COURAGE is why we are HERE. Our essential IMPACT is the very depth of our COURAGE to really LIVE, as the sacred and infinite beings we truly are. In giving and receiving - fully - in engaging with others, we discover that we can be kind to ourselves… that we are kind to ourselves. It is an awakening, an initiation into the SELF… each and every time. How does it get any better than that?