If you consciously choose to step into the consequential fray of all the decisions that did not work out as planned, leaving you with feelings of anger, sadness, fear, guilt and shame, I promise you, you’ll get your life back. I can tell you that it takes courage to examine - and feel - what you have denied, avoided and defended as not your fault, to get to that place where you finally stop rationalizing the decisions made so that you can stop feeling badly about your results. It takes ownership of the strangling resentment, the big grudge that we carry about having failed. It’s always somebody else’s fault; how dare they? The moment we choose to own and validate that grudge, there is nothing left to fight. Can you imagine living without the ‘fight’? If nature abhors a vacuum, if you give up the fight, what could you imagine instead?